I’m Dutch, so pretty far away yeah

Fair point. Yeah that fits exactly

Damn that’s quite the difference. Worth considering yeah. I do want to be flexible though, so I hope it still allows you to switch e-mail provider without changing the e-mail address

This makes me realize that I never saw a non-male techbro. Somehow the techbro crowd seems to mostly consist of young men.

Very me irl. Almost the same ages. I’m looking to change it to one that uses my own domain name though, so I can switch email providers in the future. The convenience of Gmail was always too much to overcome, but the US is no longer to be trusted and I’d rather use something European and cut any ties to the US. Before the orange man pulls some stunt that either results in all my mail being inaccessible or all my mail being shared with the world wide web.

Okay I’m autistic so I might be missing stuff as well, but really the only reasoning I can think of is the following: They might be very understaffed when you called and therefore busy, that’s why they assigned you after all. She might have been working her ass off when you called (or the whole day before you called) and be completely stressed out. Especially if you called during her working hours. Assuming you called during working hours, you were probably distracting her from all the important work she is stressing about to ask a question that from her context kinda equates to “is water wet?”.

Assuming all (or most) of these assumptions are true I can understand why she got annoyed, even if it’s mostly a miscommunication. If she was very busy and stressed you probably also became a bit of a lightning rod for all the stress that built up over the day.

I don’t think this necessarily a “mistake” that only autistic people would make. In the wrong conditions this could happen to anyone. But as an autistic person I do recognize that stuff like this often happens more to me because I tend to find things that are “obvious” and “dumb questions” to neurotypicals absolutely not obvious. Combine that with often not understanding how others will feel, and it becomes very easy to make these mistakes as someone who’s autistic.

I don’t think you’re fully wrong, for many people exercise does do wonders for their mental health. But it is definitely not the fix for everyone’s mental health issues. And telling people that all their issues can be solved if they would just exercise is just plain wrong.

Mental health is complex and there is no silver bullet. People who say “oh you’re depressed? Just do X, it always helps” are always wrong. For many people therapy works, but not for all. For many people exercise works, but not for all. For some people a simple blood check will reveal some vitamin D or B12 deficiency, and tackling this issue might improve stuff, but definitely not for all. Mental health for most people isn’t a battle where you flip one switch and get back into “the light”. It’s a long battle with ups and downs, that often doesn’t ever reach a fully stable “good” state. For me personally there are still plenty of bad moments, but now that I know that things can get better again and I’ve got the tools to get there, the bad moments generally are only temporary.