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Cake day: June 9th, 2023

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  • I used to look forward to weekends and would often postpone personal projects to the weekends where I would have the time to do them.

    It’s a lie. I don’t have time in the weekends. There’s always something else in the way, because everyone else also want to connect in weekends. It only causes frustration from not being able to do whatever I actually want.

    It’s also bullshit that I have to postpone private stuff for weekends. I want to live my life 7 out of 7 days. Not 2 and then work 5. I’m not happy with giving 70% of my life away, and hoping to catch up in the remaining 30%.

    It might seem somewhat egoistic, but if you want time for yourself, you will have to prioritize time for yourself. That includes giving lower priority and more often saying no to work, friends and family. If you try to please everyone, then your time will be consumed by everyone. You have to put yourself first and align other people’s expectations.

    However, it’s not really egoistic. It’s better to be fully present when you’re doing stuff with others, than to sit at their place wishing you were home. That includes work.

    Also, I’m now focusing on carving out time in weekdays for the things I want to do. No more overtime work, no more procrastenation and relaxing just to prepare for the next day. Sure, I will work the agreed hours to make money, but I am going to take ownership of the rest of the day. That’s somewhat easier in the summer where I have more energy and the weather is better. In the winter I am almost hibernating but then I also lower my expectations for what I can do.

    So in short, it’s necessary to plan your time and it’s necessary to align expectations from others but also your own.


  • The great thing is that this money doesn’t have to be found in other budgets or by raising taxes or anything. It’s quite literally fuck-you-money and can be spend as such.

    Of course it’s a shame to have to dig into the fund to cover for a war that should never have been started in the first place, but it’d be a lot worse in ten years to have sat on the money if Russia isn’t stopped and knowing that it could have been used for that.

    I hope they manage to find enough European manufacturers ready to take orders.


  • I’m beginning to consider the idea of having an apartment but then also a plot of land with just a shed or cottage. Something like that. I’d like to spend more time outside in most of the year but also keep the convenience of an apartment during winter. I have a house in a good location now, so it’ll probably not happen unless something drastic happens. Maybe when the kids move out.




  • I think a lot of their culture revolves around adolescence. Sports, music, movies, fashion etc. are based on juvenile traits, where talking, actions and getting attention are more important than more mature things like listening and compromising.

    They’re not all like that, but there certainly are many who get through life in an American cultural bubble. When you reach your early twenties you probably think you’ve got everything figured out. That will last until you encounter other cultures that can challenge your views. A lot of Americans don’t encounter other cultures.

    I know plenty of Europeans who are similar, but they don’t appear as one group. A German ignorant appears and speaks different than a Swedish ignorant, and both countries are known for having a similar superiority complex based on their own domestic successes. The Americans are in a disadvantage here, since everyone can hear and understand them, and there’s quite a lot of them, so their presence is just a lot more obvious.


  • I’ve used Connect the most. Also tried Jerboa and Voyager.

    The reason is that I prefer a tiny list view with thumbnails on the right, just like old.reddit used to look and RiF could be made to look. I left Reddit due to this. When they cut off 3rd party apps like RiF, there was really no good way to view the site (in my opinion). Connect simply has the settings to make it look and behave exactly how I want it. I think Voyager can be made pretty close too. Jerboa was kind of buggy when I tried it.

    I’m sure things have improved in all the apps during the last year, but I’ve stuck with Connect because it’s both stable and flexible enough. It gets frequent updates and issues are fixed quickly. I reported a bug once and the developer got it fixed within hours.