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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • I did an Alaska cruise with my mom. I was so nervous about it - thought i would feel trapped and bored and shuffled about like cattle. It was actually a great way to travel with her - being older and struggling a bit with memory changes. Was really just a floating hotel, so we could visit different cities each day without unpacking and she was able to learn her way around the ship a little, find the room, remember the restaurant options, etc. We went to the show on the first night and we both found it pretty offensive, so we spent most evenings at a jazz bar/karaoke bar. I think it would be fun with a group - i saw a lot of big groups sitting around chatting and playing games together at night.




  • I do physical therapy with school kids with disabilities. Almost $60k but only paid for 190 work days. People think we get paid for all those holidays and breaks, but we don’t - only paid for the days that we work plus five sick and vacation days. My husband makes a few times what I make as an engineer and my kids are grown (but not entirely off the payroll), so I feel pretty lucky to have the life that we do.




  • Kindness, compassion, sense of humor, open mind, love of learning, and the self confidence to not let yourself be trampled are the qualities a partner will be attracted to.

    Both of my sons are very smart and they’ve both dated women who were likely above and below them. The ones who stick around the longest are the ones who have the personality to match theirs- and to stand up to them when they’re being jerky.

    I love that my husband is smart, but i hate that he can be difficult to work with on projects because he’s not used to being wrong.







  • This is so far over my head - i don’t understand it. I know my comment will likely be taken as offensive or condescending, but it’s really not the intent. I am so confused by sexuality/gender discussions. I don’t understand having a label that’s inclusive or exclusive of who someone will or won’t date. Doesn’t that change based on the people you meet? If you label one way, you meet someone you find attractive, you have chemistry, and then you find that they have parts that don’t fit your label, what do you do? I guess it’s part of dating - to weed out what you’re usually not attracted to? I partnered/married young, so that aspect of dating wasn’t openly discussed in the same way- we didn’t have the common words to describe like we have today. Also, being hetero and having mostly hetero friends, i guess we didn’t spend time thinking about how our relationships were similar or different from each others. I definitely understand putting descriptions of any kind of love out there so young people know they’re not alone, but beyond that I’m lost.