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  • Krudler@lemmy.worldtoCasual Conversation @lemm.ee•What’s something you did once and immediately thought, ‘Yeah, never again’?English
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    3 days ago

    Not because I needed confirmation, but because I thought it might be a way to connect to other with similar worldviews…

    I joined an atheist meetup group. Well, let me just say the only thing we had in common was just that, the atheistic view.

    Beyond that it was a random mishmash of people with whom I had nothing in common. And it was immediately revealed to me that there is some kind of sickness in the overall community of those folks, I immediately realized how insane it was to continually discuss something that you don’t believe exists.

    I mean yeah, we were all coming because of the stated reason of shared atheistic view, but how irrational is it to hyperfocus on something that doesn’t exist???

    And the other thing, I assumed there would be some kind of intellectual rigor that was present in each person that came to be an atheist, and I found that was not the truth at all. These folks were just as ludicrous and ridiculous as people that believe in homeopathy and every other nonsensical concept.

    I couldn’t get the hell out of there fast enough, and I will never ever go back. I will never socialize with anybody who’s identity is so deeply tied to atheism

  • Krudler@lemmy.worldtoCasual Conversation @lemm.ee•Men who are Sensitive AND Expressive, how do you cope?English
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    11 days ago

    My friend, I cannot tell you how much I relate to so much of what you’ve written here. Thank you for sharing, it makes me feel better, and I hope it does for you as well, and you know that you are not alone in feeling this way.

    I really personally have always had a great deal of difficulty having male friends. I am a very complex person, a very intelligent person, a very witty person, a very creative person. I’m not interested in talking about shows where people punch each other, or who kicked the ball into a thing. I find it nearly impossible to have any kind of meaningful conversation with men.

    To me, talking about where you had chicken wings, and what band you saw, and what Sherry said to Tina… It’s beyond nauseating. It’s existentially dreadful. I need to talk about thoughts, feelings, perspectives, viewpoints, philosophy, hobbies, passions, art, anything other than what happened today and what direction the wind is blowing.

    The way I have started to finally solve this after years of sustained effort, is to accept within myself that I’m a lovely person, and people want to be around me, but it behooves me to be selective about the people I choose to spend time with.

    Basically I had to find the internal confidence to realize that it’s better to stay home and tinker with electronics and have a wonderful time, then to go out and be brought to an utter sense of ennui gossiping and braying and having overpriced pizza that was actually made frozen in a factory 2,000 mi away

    I started to really push myself outside my comfort zone, join electronics hobbyist groups, 3D printing groups, walking groups, discussion groups, different groups that I’m not necessarily an expert in, but just to meet the kind of people who actually want to do things with their brains and their feelings, and not just incorporate liquid calories and pureed chicken tendies into their guts.