Thought process about discuss.online and sopuli as recommendations

There is no ideal generalist instance. If you open the top 20 instances (https://fedidb.org/software/lemmy/)

• Lemmy.world is too big
• Lemm.ee is federated with hexbear and lemmygrad, something that is not very welcoming to new users (see this thread: https://sh.itjust.works/post/28798607/15305964 )
• sh.itjust.works names contains “shit”, which can deter users: https://feddit.org/post/4255611/2825351
• lemmy.ca is Canadian-centric
• feddit.org, is German-centric (sidebar in German first, Matrix chat is in German, meta community is in German)
• dbzer0 federates hexbear
• programming.dev is topic-centric
• blahaj is queer-focused
• discuss.tchncs.de has a difficult name
• lemmy.sdf.org does not defederate anyone
• lemmy.zip is federated with hexbear and lemmygrad
• beehaw is way outdated
• infosec.pub is topic-centric
• aussie.zone is country-centric
• midwest.social is region-centric

I ended up with discuss.online and sopuli.xyz as they have

• neutral names
• long running history
• good downtime
• active admins
• defederate hexbear and lemmygrad

If people have other suggestions, feel free

FediDB

Wait, he’s behind FediDB too?

It only takes a few bad actors to ruin this entire thing and send us right back to the corporate run highly censored bullshit.

There are enough good actors to keep us safe

Good luck on your search!

Could we maybe keep hexbear drama to !meanwhileongrad@sh.itjust.works ?

It’s becoming hard to follow with threads talking about hexbear posted from one community (!meanwhileongrad@sh.itjust.works ) to another (here)