Migrating here (or maybe keeping both) from @ArcaneSlime@lemmy.ml

Will put an eternal curse on your enemies for a Cinemageddon invite.

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Cake day: June 30th, 2023

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  • I feel you, like, I don’t feel like people think I’m creepy in conversation, but then I’m told that due to my gender I am automatically creepy just because other guys are, and I don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable just for asking for a coffee date to get to know each other if she’s so inclined.

    The solution to me is clear, watch King of the Hill again and make a frozen pizza.


  • Well of course cat pics are inescapable lol (except I don’t post em online because background, but irl people can see it, there’s nothing bad it’s just identifying.)

    Though work isn’t the place for me to look, it’s all married couples and olds (I am an old but I mean like 2x my age, not exactly looking for someone my dad went to school with y’know?) And I can’t just be all “hey cute lady at the store you wanna see a pic of my cat doing cute shit? Here come back to my house and pet her!” That’s worse than “hey I think you seem neat wanna go get some coffee and see whats up?” lol. I’ll get the cops called on me that way! No, it’s much safer to just say “hey how’s it going” and keep on with my day, I’m told no women want to be asked out in public, and I don’t want to be labeled a creep at some place I regularly patronise for asking someone out for coffee, so I’ll just keep my thoughts to myself.





  • As a guy who is diagnosed ADHD+Learning Disability+“doesn’t pick up social cues” (idk what that one is called but I remember that shrink saying it), this minefield is why I do not talk to women I do not know, I’m not a good eggshell walker. Yes it’s because I’m a diagnosed idiot, but that doesn’t mean I’m bad.

    For all the men in my (or similar) position, women who read this, I implore you, start asking men out you’re interested in instead of dropping hints we don’t get. We cannot ask you out in public acceptably outside of the bar and online even if we do pick up on the hints, some of us don’t even do facebook much less ChickenTinder and bars are conducive to hookups not lasting relationships so who cares? I don’t need a hookup, I have a hand, my hand can’t provide loving companionship. Conversely you can hit on us ANYWHERE. We’re very receptive, even if we aren’t interested we won’t call you a creep or report you to HR so long as you take no for an answer which I feel we can all agree is reasonable, I took no for an answer just fine for years until it became “just don’t ask them out ever, you have to get on tinder” which again I refuse.

    Alright well that’ll never happen, but at least I got it out lol. Now back to dying alone with my cats and fiddling with radios and attempting to sink into nature (once it warms up here soon anyway).