I don’t get it. Everywhere I look there is this discussion about getting into a relationship, getting gfs/bfs and constantly chasing after it. And I’m not doing anything of it. I never paid attention to such stuff. During my teenage years, I thought it was normal attraction which people cave into and pursued such things. But now in my 20s, the same thing I observe, if not a little bit more than I used it. People getting sad because they are not finding someone. People being happy because they have one for themselves.

I’m not that career focused either. I just mind my own business. If it’s studying or working, I just mind that. I do nothing like checking out girls in my school/workplace like my peers do. Maybe I’m just scared to pursue such things. I also think having a relationship is a huge headache too. Meeting them, making them happy, going out with them regularly. (I don’t go out myself where will I take her to?). All of this while doing your daily stuff.

Am I wrong thinking to put career first before I get into relationships and stuff?

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    I’ve gotten the most interest from others when I’ve been focused on my own goals, anyway.

    Try to relax and enjoy the ride. Relaxed people are attractive.

    Trust your future self to make good dating choices, when the opportunity arrives.

    That said, it took me awhile to wise up and establish some very basic fashion sense.

    If I could tell my past self one thing about dating, it would be:

    Classic looks never go out of style, but “not even trying” never goes into style.

    I took too long to figure that one out.